Wednesday, May 04, 2005
Da B.O.B.s (Part 2)
God help us if men discover their prostates. They might feel pleasure, and having felt that peculiar kind of pleasure, which my own bi partner assures me is QUITE unique, almost on a par with the feeling of your dick inside a woman, then it's going to start influencing you, and eventually to bring change into your life.
The effects could be mindblowing, and perhaps far reaching. Cast your minds over the prospect of this, even briefly, and you can see how this could become a rather radical act of social disobedience.
The fact that my partner loves getting reamed as much as I do, if not more, is a really valuable cementing of our relationship. I have been fascinated about that side of him since forever. I love him for it. He doesn't feel there's anything groundbreaking that he is the way he is. After all, he is a hedonist.
I think one of the main reasons he loves fucking me anally is that he knows how a dick inside him feels. He knows every little curve and valley in my bunghole, because he's had his own little curves and valleys lovingly explored in bath houses over the years. He relives his own enjoyment when he's enjoying me. It creates a great bond of empathy between us. The sense of trust then in these moments is monumental. And trust is part of the operation. You can't have pleasurable anal sex without trust being there first and foremost.
He enjoys the pleasure of the sensations of getting fucked up the ass, there's nothing psychologically deep about it, at least for him. But I tend to project stuff onto him because of that. I love that he is open to being invaded. It makes him rounded and pliable and soft and easy to deal with, and we need those qualities in our lives. Men need these qualities especially, since they're taught to deny they even have those needs in themselves; they learn how to disparage men who reveal those needs.
Anal sex, more than other forms of sexual expression, relies especially on qualities of empathy, trust, gentleness. What's not to like about those? Wouldn't we all like to have a little more of them around us?
I am not talking about the feminization of men here. These are qualities present in them already, I would like to see them called out a little more. Good things are going to keep on happening to the guys out there now, they're ready for it. They will keep expanding sexually, trying things that were once decreed as off-limits to real manly men. The rest of us can only be the beneficiaries.
TO BE CONTINUED
The effects could be mindblowing, and perhaps far reaching. Cast your minds over the prospect of this, even briefly, and you can see how this could become a rather radical act of social disobedience.
The fact that my partner loves getting reamed as much as I do, if not more, is a really valuable cementing of our relationship. I have been fascinated about that side of him since forever. I love him for it. He doesn't feel there's anything groundbreaking that he is the way he is. After all, he is a hedonist.
I think one of the main reasons he loves fucking me anally is that he knows how a dick inside him feels. He knows every little curve and valley in my bunghole, because he's had his own little curves and valleys lovingly explored in bath houses over the years. He relives his own enjoyment when he's enjoying me. It creates a great bond of empathy between us. The sense of trust then in these moments is monumental. And trust is part of the operation. You can't have pleasurable anal sex without trust being there first and foremost.
He enjoys the pleasure of the sensations of getting fucked up the ass, there's nothing psychologically deep about it, at least for him. But I tend to project stuff onto him because of that. I love that he is open to being invaded. It makes him rounded and pliable and soft and easy to deal with, and we need those qualities in our lives. Men need these qualities especially, since they're taught to deny they even have those needs in themselves; they learn how to disparage men who reveal those needs.
Anal sex, more than other forms of sexual expression, relies especially on qualities of empathy, trust, gentleness. What's not to like about those? Wouldn't we all like to have a little more of them around us?
I am not talking about the feminization of men here. These are qualities present in them already, I would like to see them called out a little more. Good things are going to keep on happening to the guys out there now, they're ready for it. They will keep expanding sexually, trying things that were once decreed as off-limits to real manly men. The rest of us can only be the beneficiaries.
TO BE CONTINUED
