Monday, February 06, 2006
Those "Bi-Oral" Guys
Recently Dave and I attempted to find a guy to play with us. We resorted to our usual iniqitous ways and went right to Craigslist to post an ad. A handful of various people turned up nearly immediately. Thank God, the men are still a lot swifter on the uptake than the women I've tried dating on Craigslist. We sift through the ads, several flake out on us, but we arrange to meet G, a forty something guy who sends us his pix revealing a fit looking bod and a great looking dick. We're there.
But G gets nixed by my partner Dave the minute we lay eyes on him in front of our local bar. The guy looks really rough, with that battered, almost beery kind of look that says, "I luv my liquor, and it loves me." I was glad Dave took the lead in this, but he picked up right away that this guy probably didn't have a bisexual bone in his entire body. What would be the point from Dave's point of view? The guy is flying under false pretenses, he will pass himself off as bi because he wants to get close to the woman. One look at this guy and you could sense he would have a tough time landing a woman on his own. With a couple, much of the groundwork has already been done. You simply hitch a ride on their wagon.
Lately we've noticed this trend in a lot of the male persons we are meeting. Guys seem willing to try just about anything on these singles' boards. When we lived in L.A., we noticed the variety of men who called themselves bisexual. We thought it was some kind of fluke, at first. But now it feels like something is going on. There is always a lot of pressure to hook up with people, but hook ups that are mutually satisfying seem to be fewer and farther between these days.
My last therapist commented on this to me. Basically she noticed this trend too, via the stream of people filing in and out of her office. Since about 1990, she says, people have had a really hard time connecting. You hear the bitching about this on Craigslist all the time, especially under the "W4W" section. But men and women are having tough times too.
So, if a guy can't hook up easily, but he wants to get laid, what options does he have these days? We've offered some alternatives here, via sex parties, bath houses and threesomes.
We all know that many males frequent bath houses who are not strictly homosexual, but for a lot of guys that's just too gay.
Sex parties are a good alternative, most of the parties are hetero oriented, they could hook up with a woman there. If they want to spring big bucks to get in, and assuming the party allows single guys.
Threesomes would be the best way sometimes for a guy to get alongside a woman. And if they aren't very "gay" around the edges, well, that can be accommodated too. As long as the other male is not too demanding in what he wants. After all, any normal red-blooded guy could close his eyes and allow his dick to get sucked by another male. And less frequently perhaps he would suck another guy off, maybe even top him too. We find most of them want to draw the line when it comes to their taking it up the bum.
Dave and I decided we wanted to bypass this group of males. We want to try for something different, like advertising under M4M on Craigslist. This way we are likely to get a guy who is more interested initially in Dave rather than me. But he can deal with me also. It's just the emphasis will be shifted from two men mostly clustered around the woman, to two men attracted to each other in the foreground and the woman a little more receding.
We think that is an equation worth exploring. We know already that a couple posting on the M4M board is far more likely to land a genuinely bisexual male than the "Casual Encounters" section, which teems with straight guys looking to hook up with M/F couples.
Who knows, we may even have a "queer" experience.
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But G gets nixed by my partner Dave the minute we lay eyes on him in front of our local bar. The guy looks really rough, with that battered, almost beery kind of look that says, "I luv my liquor, and it loves me." I was glad Dave took the lead in this, but he picked up right away that this guy probably didn't have a bisexual bone in his entire body. What would be the point from Dave's point of view? The guy is flying under false pretenses, he will pass himself off as bi because he wants to get close to the woman. One look at this guy and you could sense he would have a tough time landing a woman on his own. With a couple, much of the groundwork has already been done. You simply hitch a ride on their wagon.
Lately we've noticed this trend in a lot of the male persons we are meeting. Guys seem willing to try just about anything on these singles' boards. When we lived in L.A., we noticed the variety of men who called themselves bisexual. We thought it was some kind of fluke, at first. But now it feels like something is going on. There is always a lot of pressure to hook up with people, but hook ups that are mutually satisfying seem to be fewer and farther between these days.
My last therapist commented on this to me. Basically she noticed this trend too, via the stream of people filing in and out of her office. Since about 1990, she says, people have had a really hard time connecting. You hear the bitching about this on Craigslist all the time, especially under the "W4W" section. But men and women are having tough times too.
So, if a guy can't hook up easily, but he wants to get laid, what options does he have these days? We've offered some alternatives here, via sex parties, bath houses and threesomes.
We all know that many males frequent bath houses who are not strictly homosexual, but for a lot of guys that's just too gay.
Sex parties are a good alternative, most of the parties are hetero oriented, they could hook up with a woman there. If they want to spring big bucks to get in, and assuming the party allows single guys.
Threesomes would be the best way sometimes for a guy to get alongside a woman. And if they aren't very "gay" around the edges, well, that can be accommodated too. As long as the other male is not too demanding in what he wants. After all, any normal red-blooded guy could close his eyes and allow his dick to get sucked by another male. And less frequently perhaps he would suck another guy off, maybe even top him too. We find most of them want to draw the line when it comes to their taking it up the bum.
Dave and I decided we wanted to bypass this group of males. We want to try for something different, like advertising under M4M on Craigslist. This way we are likely to get a guy who is more interested initially in Dave rather than me. But he can deal with me also. It's just the emphasis will be shifted from two men mostly clustered around the woman, to two men attracted to each other in the foreground and the woman a little more receding.
We think that is an equation worth exploring. We know already that a couple posting on the M4M board is far more likely to land a genuinely bisexual male than the "Casual Encounters" section, which teems with straight guys looking to hook up with M/F couples.
Who knows, we may even have a "queer" experience.
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