Thursday, November 16, 2006
To Party, Or Not To Party
So my partner Dave and I are debating whether we should go to a play party up in the city this Saturday night. It's been a while since we have been to one. Why? Well, since the Black Sheets crowd closed down, there hasn't been a thrilling abundance of sex parties. A few people have tried to step into the breech, with mixed results. Maybe we are just getting wised up - we have found that the people we were running into were not the sorts we would go back for.
Who wants to go to a party where you see basically out of shape men and women? Sometimes we wish we were back in L.A. There is definitely a better look among that crowd. We were not finding what we wanted, so we have backed off.
Anyways, the party we are thinking of attending is actually a birthday party being hosted by the guy himself, and his wife. I wrote about them briefly a ways back in this column. They are throwing the whole thing in a suite in a hotel, with finger food and about thirty five people attending. All gratis. So that's the good part.
The bad part is, I am not at all attracted to the host. In fact, I find him rather ugly and swarthy and hairy. I never met his wife, but I have been hearing about her for a while now. She was usually gone out of town running marathons somewhere. So I deduced she probably is the hot-looking member of the family.
But do I want to deal with him as part of the process of meeting her? Another factor is that someone else will be there who really coveted me and Dave, we tried to set a date once for a threesome, then we backed out. Because on further review we felt we were not that attracted after all, and decided not to go further down the road with him. He was probably rather miffed, I would be. We wrote and told him in plenty of time that we were having second thoughts. We never heard from him again.
We know he will be here at this party. He will probably avoid us, and we him, but still. Would you put yourself through this?
So we are debating the matter. The party is free, but we still need to reserve a car. Ours is on life support and we try not to extend it beyond our usual daily errands around town, and Dave getting to work locally at the shop when he works here in town.
At this point we are leaning towards going. I think it is important that I learn more about saying "no" in certain situations like this. I visualize having certain discussions with people at the party....what if a guy said, "Can I eat you out?" That I am ready for. Most men are not all that good at that, sorry to say. I would reply, "No thanks, I want 'the main course' instead; or, "No thanks you're not my type;" or, "No thanks you're not my type and I'm looking for something else tonight."
Or, what happens if I really like the wife of our host? I don't want to feel obligated to deal with him too as a way of going to her.
You catch my drift. Sticky wickets, these. Nancy Pelosi should have this can of worms to deal with on her desk!
But Nancy doesn't, and I do. I think we are going to go to the party.
Expect a full and hopefully juicy report next week!
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Who wants to go to a party where you see basically out of shape men and women? Sometimes we wish we were back in L.A. There is definitely a better look among that crowd. We were not finding what we wanted, so we have backed off.
Anyways, the party we are thinking of attending is actually a birthday party being hosted by the guy himself, and his wife. I wrote about them briefly a ways back in this column. They are throwing the whole thing in a suite in a hotel, with finger food and about thirty five people attending. All gratis. So that's the good part.
The bad part is, I am not at all attracted to the host. In fact, I find him rather ugly and swarthy and hairy. I never met his wife, but I have been hearing about her for a while now. She was usually gone out of town running marathons somewhere. So I deduced she probably is the hot-looking member of the family.
But do I want to deal with him as part of the process of meeting her? Another factor is that someone else will be there who really coveted me and Dave, we tried to set a date once for a threesome, then we backed out. Because on further review we felt we were not that attracted after all, and decided not to go further down the road with him. He was probably rather miffed, I would be. We wrote and told him in plenty of time that we were having second thoughts. We never heard from him again.
We know he will be here at this party. He will probably avoid us, and we him, but still. Would you put yourself through this?
So we are debating the matter. The party is free, but we still need to reserve a car. Ours is on life support and we try not to extend it beyond our usual daily errands around town, and Dave getting to work locally at the shop when he works here in town.
At this point we are leaning towards going. I think it is important that I learn more about saying "no" in certain situations like this. I visualize having certain discussions with people at the party....what if a guy said, "Can I eat you out?" That I am ready for. Most men are not all that good at that, sorry to say. I would reply, "No thanks, I want 'the main course' instead; or, "No thanks you're not my type;" or, "No thanks you're not my type and I'm looking for something else tonight."
Or, what happens if I really like the wife of our host? I don't want to feel obligated to deal with him too as a way of going to her.
You catch my drift. Sticky wickets, these. Nancy Pelosi should have this can of worms to deal with on her desk!
But Nancy doesn't, and I do. I think we are going to go to the party.
Expect a full and hopefully juicy report next week!
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You need to find out if the wife and the host play separately. We ran into this same problem years ago when a woman we were playing with invited us over to meet her SO without letting us know. The guy was creepy, hairy ape and the evening incredibly awkward.
God, what an awful sounding experience! We have not run across quite that problem yet, that would tend to hem a body in, now wouldn't it? Wriggling out would take major energy.
We can't assume that our SOs are necessarily attractive to those we play with. In their case, there is quite a disparity it sounds. But Dave and I tend to like the same types of people, and vice versa, so we have not run into this situation yet.
The couple in question at our party do in fact seem to separate themselves a bit.
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We can't assume that our SOs are necessarily attractive to those we play with. In their case, there is quite a disparity it sounds. But Dave and I tend to like the same types of people, and vice versa, so we have not run into this situation yet.
The couple in question at our party do in fact seem to separate themselves a bit.
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